GETTING BACK ON THE SADDLE REQUIRES OPTIMISM AND PATIENCE 

Dating after a divorce can be tough.  You’re up against a rapidly changing singles scene, powered by dating apps like Tinder and Hinge.  And, even if your split was amicable, your confidence is a bit broken.  You thought you’d found the one, you went all in, and here you are back on the playing field.

Rest assured that you’re not alone.  The APA estimates that 40-50% of all marriages will end in divorce, which means you’re part of a large pool of divorcees navigating singlehood, first dates, and early-stage relationship awkwardness all over again.  With a little bit of hope and an open mind, you can make it work in your favor.

STAY POSITIVE 

It’s important that you’re optimistic.  If you’re going to find love again, you have to believe it. Plain and simple.

BE HONEST 

Have a clear idea about what you’re looking for.  This requires some reflection – what went wrong in your marriage, and what will a new, healthy relationship look like?  Taking the time to think about this can help you avoid the same missteps.

TAKE YOUR TIME 

You might be eager to get it over with and settle back into a relationship, but don’t just jump right in.  There’s no pressure to start dating right away or to rush things once you find someone you like.  You don’t have an expiration date.  Take your time.

GET ONLINE

Maybe Tinder isn’t your speed, but a lot of dating happens online.  A dating profile gives you access to a large pool of daters, and you can filter them down based on your criteria.

GET SOCIAL 

Start spending time in places where like-minded people hang out.  If you’re into salsa, start taking classes. You never know who you’ll meet.

Dating after a divorce can be intimidating, but with the right mindset and a willingness to try new things, you increase your odds of finding love once again.